“The FunBot presence is for validation to judgmental friends and the online world that someone finds you worthy; therefore, you must be important because self-worth is overrated…”

 

 

Ask your single friends what they want in a relationship partner, and their response is likely to be a long grocery list of character qualities, career attributes, and physical feature demands. For someone to have standards is one thing, but if their must-haves’ is an obsessive list that only benefits themselves, then it’s not a mate that they are looking for, it is a robot.

 

The earliest example a child sees of a relationship is usually between their parents/guardians. They see their parent’s fondness and affection for each other as a finished project without the ability to binge episodes that showcased how their union came to be. As a child, they view their job as parents, not as flawed humans.  Fathers treat their daughters as princesses sitting on high mountains of worshipped, setting a mythological standard while mothers make sure their young princes smothered with compliments that validate their reasonings always to be right. This now-adult woman expects her ServiceBot to slay a dragon, drive through tornado storms, and defeat the final boss all before their first date. The adult man seeks his after-work home to be a gingerbread house with an endless food supply provided by a ServiceBot who can bring him a peaceful mind. Both sexes are guilty of acknowledging their parent’s highlights only and using them as a standardized blueprint for choosing a mate.

 

Social media has added to the societal pressure of relationship-seeking. The imagery of online couples drinking mimosas for breakfast while rock climbing in overdressed Easter suits influences some singles to seek someone who is a FunBot to play dress-up and showcase like a prop for Instagram. The man finds a FunBot to flaunt its attractiveness to his guy tribe for their approval, whether it be through online or at a bar meet up. A woman will hope to find a FunBot with a friendly smile who will pose with a candlelight dinner for a hashtag photo opportunity. The FunBot will take overly priced flight trips with other couples so that the beach photos will make them all look like one big cool collective despite secretly hating each other. The FunBot presence is for validation to judgmental friends and the online world that someone finds you worthy; therefore, you must be important because self-worth is overrated.

 

Depends on who you ask, the desire to have children can derive from many feelings; some are which maternal, intuitive, or traditional. All good reasons that can influence an individual to seek a partner whose purpose is to provide an offspring. A successful independent woman whose career accomplishments are ignored by her family will succumb to their pressure of life being meaningless if shes not a mother by searching for a companion to impregnate her. The woman will judge this BirthBot on its height, weight, skin complication, and overall movement as qualifications to produce a child that will fill in the empty void that makes her post 30 life abnormal to the outside world. A man will follow the tradition of past kings he’s admired by only seeing a woman’s purpose is to bring him a male replicate. Adoption options or the understanding that legacy is subjective is blind to a man who fixated on the traditional ideal that success starts with two kids and a wife. Neither sex is concern about the needs of the other, only of what they have to offer so that they may fit-in a world and not stand out.

 

The trouble with blind interest is that it eliminates the understanding that humans are imperfect beings with needs and desires. To search for a relationship that only has an investment of what one can get without the same willingness of what you can give is as unreasonable as it is unrealistic. One cannot look for their partner to be a soulless machine whose purpose is to carry all the emotional baggage of the relationship without addressing any concerns of their own. Vulnerability is a two-way street that both sides need to feel secure enough to express to each other. It’s ok to admire your parents 30 plus marriage but attempting to duplicate it is only doing a disservice to yourself. It is better to live a relationship based on one’s own life’s choices and circumstances, not for the praise of others. When ideal meets reality, find a partner who will match your efforts with the ability to compromise; otherwise, order a robot from Westworld and call it a day.

 

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J hall